Am I a Sex Addict?

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Signs, Symptoms, and Next Steps for Recovery

Sexual addiction can be difficult to recognize, especially when secrecy, guilt, and denial cloud the truth. You may have asked yourself, Am I a sex addict? Is my behavior out of control? The fact that you’re here, searching for answers, is an important first step.

At Lighthouse Counseling, we help individuals struggling with compulsive sexual behaviors gain clarity, break free from destructive cycles, and reclaim control of their lives. If you're unsure whether your behaviors indicate an addiction, this page will help you assess your situation and explore your next steps.

What Is Sexual Addiction?

Sexual addiction, also known as compulsive sexual behavior, is the inability to control sexual urges, even when they lead to negative consequences. It’s not just about frequency—it’s about the impact. When sexual thoughts or actions interfere with your relationships, career, mental health, or self-worth, it may signal a deeper problem.

People suffering from sexual addiction often:

  • Lose control over their sexual behaviors
  • Feel trapped in cycles of secrecy and shame
  • Engage in risky behaviors despite knowing the consequences
  • Use sex as an escape from stress, anxiety, or emotional pain

If any of this sounds familiar, it’s time to take an honest look at your behaviors and their impact on your life.

To learn more, visit Understanding Sex Addiction.

Take The Test

This quick and confidential online assessment can help determine whether your sexual behaviors have become compulsive and if you may be facing addiction. Results are confidential and presented on screen at the end of the assessment.

Instructions

Answer "yes" or "no" to these 20 questions to determine if counseling is right for you.

Am I an addict?

Take this short quiz to help you quickly determine if you should seek counseling.

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Were you sexually abused as a child or adolescent?

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Did your parents have trouble with sexual behavior?

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Do you often find yourself preoccupied with sexual thoughts?

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Do you feel that your sexual behavior is not normal?

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Do you ever feel bad about your sexual behavior?

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Has your sexual behavior ever created problems for you and your family?

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Have you ever sought help for sexual behavior you did not like?

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Has anyone been hurt emotionally because of your sexual behavior?

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Are any of your sexual activities against the law?

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Have you made efforts to quit a type of sexual activity and failed?

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Do you hide some of your sexual behaviors from others?

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Have you attempted to stop some parts of your sexual activity?

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Have you felt degraded by your sexual behaviors?

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When you have sex, do you feel depressed afterwards?

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Do you feel controlled by your sexual desire?

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Have important parts of your life, such as job, family, friends, leisure activities, been neglected because you were spending too much time on sex?

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Do you ever think your sexual desire is stronger than you are?

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Has sex (or romantic fantasies) been a way for you to escape your problems?

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Is sex almost all you think about?

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Has sex become the most important thing in your life?

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Get SEX Addiction Help

Ready to take the first step? Speak with a licensed sexual addiction counselor today.